Finding the balance between Motherhood & Me

Friday, 3 February 2017

My thought on THAT Mumsnet forum thread...


I'm going off schedule tonight to discuss the "to not understand mum blogging" thread on the Mumsnet forum as I know it made some bloggers question themselves and our purpose. I wanted to address some of the points I read from it:

They have nothing better to do:

This forum discussed how they feel that mum bloggers 'have nothing better to do with their time' - this couldn't be further from the truth. I barely have any free time but prioritise blogging like someone would do with golf or the gym - it's my hobby! It's certainly not my outlet for being bored - being a mum on maternity leave there is always something to do!

They sell their soul (and their children's soul) for free products:

THIS IS SO OFFENSIVE! Let's get one thing clear - NOTHING is free when it comes to blogging! I have built a blog and a loyal readership through countless hours of networking and improving my content, because of that brands reach out to me asking me to SUPPORT them! To review a product we are talking hours of testing the product, writing about it, taking photos, promoting the post, replying to comments. If I had an hourly rate it certainly wouldn't be 'free work' - also regarding selling my soul? Not at all - I work with brands that I would choose to buy from such as Nuby, Water Wipes, Dr Browns to name a few - people whose products we have anyway. I'm selling my son's soul? By working for him having nice things? Any money I earn through blogging (when he sleeps) I spend on him!

Only bloggers read blogs and then they all applaud each other:

I saw a few bloggers get upset about this and question their purpose, but so what if bloggers just read blogs (which isn't true) - the blogging community is HUUUUGE and its just that, a community, I have learnt some of my most valuable tips from blogs and also sometimes it's just nice to see that your not the only mum having a bad day - blogs are more honest about the impact children have on your life, relationship, body and home than Nancy from baby group (Nancy is made up by the way!)

It's all advertorial:

Yes, some blogs are 100% sponsored review after sponsored review but don't tarnish the whole community. This makes me sad that people have that perception! Many of my posts that discuss products are genuine recommendations of products that I like that I have bought with my own money. My last favourites video was all bought by me!

I liked The Unmumsy Mum, but she sold out:

You mean she started to find ways to make money so you could enjoy her content for free? Let's all remember that... blogs and YouTube are free! If you watched TV or bought a magazine you would see the same sponsored content and adverts, however, blogs and YT are actually more upfront! Ever watched a programme like Made in Chelsea that declares it has product placement - great - but what products are subliminally being fed into your mind? You have no idea right? At least most blogs disclose exactly which product!

Keep a diary if you must log every second of your life.

Don't get me wrong - I love that one day Rory will have this huge honest document of his life but that is secondary to why I write this blog. All babies and motherhood experiences are different - I hope I can offer someone advice, help or comfort from our experiences in the same way that I learn from others!

Anyway I only got as far as page 2 of 9 before I decided to stop reading it - it was quite bitchy and for women who claim mum bloggers are 'filling their time' seem to spend a lot of time bashing others on a forum - at least bloggers 'fill their time' trying to create something good and positive. 

Here are the reasons I am a PROUD Mummy Blogger:


  • I used to be a 'lifestyle blogger' and have no problem admitting my content used to be copycat drivvle that wouldn't add anything to anyone's life - I spent 6 years blogging with no direction. When I fell pregnant I found an amazing, supportive network of bloggers where we share our unique experiences to help others - no different than seeking advice on a forum. 
  • My blog allows me to be something more than a wife and mum while on maternity leave - sure it's a blog about my baby, but it gives me a creative place to write, take gorgeous photos of Rory that I probably wouldn't have made the time to take before and document his milestones as I've never bothered with a book. 
  • The community is amazing and I've made some of the best of friends through blogging - people that get me through my days as I adjust to life in the motherhood - if that's all I take from blogging - fine by me!
  • The 'freebies' - as discussed their not technically free but blogging has introduced me to amazing brands that I may not necessarily of heard about had I not been asked to work with them (because it is work). 



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16 comments

  1. You go girl - quite right, that mums net thread has made us all question everything, but if anything it's probably made us all realize exactly what we get from blogging also. Boo them.

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  2. This is a brilliant post, that thread was ridiculous! x

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  3. Love everything you replied about! Brilliant!

    I haven't read the full thread on mums net and don't want to!

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  4. Loved reading this, I've not read the thread but I can imagine!! Xx

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  5. I never read the thread - but honestly, don't be offended by the keyboard warriors. If they don't like, they don't have to read - but clearly they do. You don't need to justify your blog or blogging as a hobby or career choice. You're providing for your family, and keeping your sanity as a mum. Big hugs :)

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  6. Yes. ALL the yes! I feel a bit sorry for those who 'don't get it'. Blogging has changed my life for the better. I have an amazing support network because of it. xx

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  7. Wow, I haven't read that thread but I think it is awful that people would be so demeaning to hard working mum bloggers, who work so hard to support others. If you have time to slam someone for doing something that helps and is appreciated by so many others, perhaps you're the one who should ask yourself if you're bored!?

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  8. This is so on point it hurts! I 10000000% agree with you. I just hope people and bloggers read this alongside that petty forum so they can actually understand bloggers properly because honestly I think they just dint "get" blogging. Maybe if they did, they'd understand!

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  9. Well done G, such a fantastic post. Fuck the keyboard warriors.They don't know jack! Xx

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  10. Aww I totally ignored that thread; they are either ignorant, jealous or simply have a different perspective on things. Doesn't affect my life what they think! The free products thing does make me laugh though, I am sure they would think it odd if we said they got free money just by working some hours lol :-) Katie x

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  11. I always think opening up discussion about any topic is a good thing unless it's offensive and hurtful to some people and it sounds to me like this Mumsnet thread was both of those things. As long as bloggers are open and honest which most always are, then readers known exactly what they are getting. It's an industry - the same as any magazine, TV show or Facebook...x

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  12. I saw this and just thought what a load of cr*p. They're saying we don't have anything better to do, whilst spending their time talking about us? It's all a bit hypocritical. They're doing a lot of the same things on the forums as we do on blogs; talk about important topics to us, share our favourite products, discuss our parenting fails etc, except we make money ;)

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  13. Some people really have nothing better to do than just criticise online. Probably don't have the imagination to do it themselves!

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  14. That thread made me angry and for a moment I started to self doubt but then thought screw em! Great post x

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  15. It's such a ironic idea. Mumsnet bloggers? Thats a thing right. Its ridiculous!

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  16. Argh, this thread stressed me out no end, so does the constant stream of jealousy towards bloggers - thinking we get 'free things' and are totally self-indulgent, I just WISH they could see the other side of it and the hard graft that we do! Great post, well done for standing up for us! :)


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