Finding the balance between Motherhood & Me

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Mummy & Baby Two Month Update



Motherhood is an absolute dream come true, I am loving pretty much every single minute of it. Rory is no longer a squishy little newborn, he is quite a sturdy lad which is both lovely and terrifying! Why is he growing so fast?


Confession time though, at the time of writing this post we are actually ten weeks postpartum *slaps back of hand* I will make sure these are on time in the future!


Feeding:

After every feed, despite bringing up wind, Rory would really cry in pain! Diagnosing him with Colic I raided Boots for all forms of gripe water and infant drops (yep I have tried them all) Colief was the best at offering some relief, however with a £10 a week price tag I decided to talk to the doctor about a prescription.

The doctor told me that all Colief does is break down the lactose content in the milk and to try Rory on lactose free milk. I initially decided Rory wasn’t lactose intolerant but after reading the symptoms I realised it could be an option and bought some lactose free formula. The first day he was less settled than ever but by day 2 he was a different baby!

I was told it should be a temporary intolerance and after a month to try and wean him back onto normal formula - this was an epic fail and by day 2 Rory was crying in pain again! So he is back to just lacto-free formula. I have a doctors appointment for this week to discuss the next steps and see if we try normal formula again at a later date or if he needs allergy testing.

Sleep:

Daytime sleep is hit and miss, he wants to sleep on me which isn’t always practical. However he has started to do bigger naps on his own with the help of swaddle blankets and his Purflo Nest - hurrah! He will also nap whilst baby wearing if things are really bad and he won’t let me move!

Nightime sleep is a joy - but it has its conditions. We bedshare! When we first had Rory he would not sleep alone at night under any circumstance. Initially I thought he didnt like his Moses basket so bought him a co-sleeping crib but we had the same problem - he just wanted the security of sleeping on me. I would try and get him into a deep sleep on my chest then put him down but out of exhaustion I was falling asleep with him on me and risking his life as he would sometimes fall off - mum guilt alert!

It was Sophia who suggested bed-sharing, with the valid argument of “surely its better to practise safe bed sharing than to keep doing what I'm doing” something there obviously stuck with me as a week later out of sheer desperation at 3am I popped Rory next to me and he slept through till 8am. From three weeks until now he has slept in our bed and just wakes once for a feed and I haven't looked back since.

I don't have a plan regarding bedsharing and as much as I appreciate the constant reminders of SIDs or being told “you're making a rod for your own back”, at the moment I am thinking of the here and now and we are all refreshed and enjoying the bond it brings. I’ll do a bigger post on that anyway.

How is Mama?

Shockingly well. I never thought I would recover from my Caesarian physically or emotionally. Physically apart from the scar you just wouldn't know, I have put the anaemia (from losing so much blood in surgery) and the constant hospital visits due to being at risk of blood clots behind me.

Emotionally I am certainly getting there, obviously I am still upset my aspect of everything and the thought that I may never deliver naturally or having the stigma of “not giving birth” but I am certainly not crying about it anymore. I do have a few posts planned on my Caesarian and getting over traumatic labours.

Postpartum body wise - things are amazing. I have been so so lucky to quickly lose the baby weight and apart from the jelly belly and a few stretch marks things are as they were before!

Being a mum has offered me so much confidence and made me feel like my life as purpose and that everything is as it should be. Rory is the greatest joy of my life and I absolutely adore him!

To see more on how we are doing two months postpartum, watch our YouTube update here.

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9 comments

  1. Sounds like you're both doing great! If bed sharing works best for you both then it would be daft to put you both through sleep deprivation every night trying to make the crib work. As long as you're both happy then that's all that matters :)

    Finding the right kind of milk has been a hassle for us too - hopefully Rory now has one that suits him!

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  2. I hate you for the sleep - I wish I could co-sleep but I don't think Jordan would appreciate me kicking him out of the bed, and there's no
    way we could sleep with three of us in the bed!

    I love reading Rory's updates, because there so close in age I can't help but compare both us two and the two boys!

    Kirsty x

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  3. I feel so bad when I read about mums who are struggling with their baby's milk. It's just an obstacle we didn't have to think about with Ella as we were fortunate she didn't have these problems but my heart really goes out to you, I can hardly imagine how difficult it is dealing with lactose intolerance/colic/reflux when imagine to tolerances hard enough as it is with a new baby! He looks like he is coming on a treat though & you look great, take care you're doing so well xxx

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  4. Oh how I miss the newborn stage! It has its ups and downs but you can't beat that newborn baby smell! I'm currently pestering my oh for baby no3. My two are 3yrs and 1yr old now.

    We co-sleep too and I wouldn't have it any different. They are only babies for a short time so we have to make the most of it! 😊

    Lovely post x

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  5. Bed sharing is totally the best! Honestly even at 7 months I don't think I'll be stopping any time soon! Everyone is happy, and lets be honest, they grow up so fast and in no time at all they won't want cuddles from mum anymore!

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  6. Aw man wishing we could co sleep with Amelia, Maybe I need to kick James out of the bed. Thankfully Amelia isn't too bad and is only waking once but still!

    I'm glad you're feeling better about your C section too hunny :) xx

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  7. Have you tried anti colic bottles form tommee tippee? We also have wind problems and they have been brilliant. I didn't think bottles could make a difference but they really did. We were going to go down the allergy road otherwise but it really calmed down now x

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  8. It sounds like you've had it rough in the beginning! I developed a lung clot in early pregnancy so I know how you feel with the hospital visits. Also, I tend to ignore those who comment on my parenting style. I'm sure they mean well, but you do what works best for you

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  9. So glad you're all doing so well, poor boy and mama with his lactose intolerence, it could be one of those things that eventually calms down a little as I've known a few babies that it has. But well done, a c-section is no easy task and I don't know if I would recover as well as you have - complete star!!

    Emily xxx

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